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It is amazing how we hold certain folks in history out in such high-esteem. Did you know that Freud may not have been the super psychologist we believe he was? I…
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When The Words You Use Hurt Someone Else-Part 3-Critical Hum

When the Words You Use Hurt Someone ElseCritical HumorCritical humor hurts. The young husband gently touched his wifes full-figured hips and said, I guess well be getting a king-sized bed real soon. He then chuckled. Sensitive about her new weight gain and hurt by his comment, she replied, What are you trying to say? Are you making fun of me? He said, You are overreacting. I was just kidding.I laughed as a popular comedian held up a mans glasses from the audience and said, I think I can see Kansas. The man from the audience also laughed. But I wondered if he also felt the pain of the implied criticism about his poor eyesight.Critical humor is a put down of the person or their physical or mental weaknesses.Think back to all the times you have been the victim of criticism disguised as humor. How did it feel? How did you react?Most of us will attack defensively only to be told that we were overreacting. Then we wonder if we were mistaken. After all, the person had a smile on his face and even laughed. But you still felt like he attacked you so you had to fight back somehow.I love humor. I think it is healing, restoring, and sanity in the midst of craziness. But I am convinced that it should not be used as a sneaky way to insult someone or make the abuser feel powerful. Some use it just to get a laugh.As children many of us played the dozens. If you are not familiar, it was a game where each person traded insults about each other or his family. It was only effective if played with a crowd of observers who could laugh at the exchange. Often a person would not get angry until you talked about his mother. Ha!Well, I propose a better game to play for young folks and some adults who still practice the dozens. Its called the positive dozens. Each person tries to outdo the other with words of encouragement. There is still room for a lot of humor, but the funny thing is that playing the positive dozens does not hurt. I dont know if your mama would be happy with that, but I know mine would.Next: Sarcasm

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